Who? - Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We subjected each relation to this test -was it selfish or not? Was compatibility at the spiritual level a fact and not wishful thinking? Was compatibility at the emotional level a fact and not wishful thinking? Was compatibility at the mental level a fact and not wishful thinking?