ERIKA WAXES ON THE SUBJECT OF SEX***
Ok, now I don't claim to be any expert on this subject. This is
my subjective ramblings on the matter and no one has to agree
but gives you some idea what I am all about in that arena.
On the subject of sex in general the answer is "yes" but not
with just anybody. My friends know I like to frequent where
angels fear to tread, yet I also have this Victorian morality
thing so I tend toward celibacy in general. I mean in this day
and age sex can be a one way ticket to STD's, heartache,
AIDS, and the Jerry Springer Show. I prefer the age old art
of 'tease-the-sh*t-out-of-him-til-he-begs-for-mercy then go for the kill'.
No, wait, that was my philosophy about hunting small furry animals.
Ok, back to the matter at hand. Sex, sex, sex. Hm, where was I,
oh yes, Sex.
Well, certainly so, certainly so.
Ideally I would like to mate for life. Boring and old-fashioned
as that may be and tending to make men run screaming for the hills
with fears of being tied down (oh, I promise I wont hurt you. What's
a little bondage between friends, hmm? My therapist says I am a lot better now).
Ok, so it's the age old question of sex as expression of love OR what
generally happens which is: power plays in the bedroom spilling over
into life. Ideally two people (ok, give me a break I am allowed
utopian thoughts here) enter into equal partnership, respect, mutual
admiration, good communication is key (to my g-spot anyway). I
admit to fear of intimacy and tend toward mind games as a way to cope,
although they haven't exactly been successful to bring the big game home anyway.
I guess any guys reading this have eyes glazed over by now.
"When is she going to talk about Mel Gibson's butt?" they wonder.
Now's a good time. I have had my sexuality called into question
numerous times and you'd think after 30 something years I would know my own gender
preference. It seems to me that people have to explain away a woman
who can live quite happily alone and doesn't need a man welded to
her hip every second. I think it is easy to label people as a way to
pigeonhole since everyone knows we have to fit into society's bizarre
value system (or make people very very nervous, my preferred method).
So, unless the person comes right out and tells you what they like, leave it alone.
Mel's butt is a piece of work I would admit. I just
like to hold out for sirloin cut when everywhere I see ground beef!
What Erika likes in the bedroom:
Orgasms, playing with food, icecubes, a little lite bondage, adoration,
whole body worshipping (Uwe taught me about the previous two and I like it),
nipples, sextoys, leather, laughter, rolling around, teasing,
and things that tickle my fancy whatever that might be. In other
words fun, erotic, and never boring bonking. Crumpets are right out.
***Disclaimer: If you take any of this page
seriously I suggest you look up competent mental health professionals
in the yellow pages post-haste.
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